🍦 She sent me out for one very specific food at 11pm
She wants that exact thing, now, and she sent you because she trusts you to get it right. Going without a debate tells her you are in this with her. Coming back with the wrong brand tells her you were half listening.
▸The physiology behind it
Cravings are common but not universal. The NHS puts them down to hormonal changes that alter her sense of taste and smell, which is why something she ignored for years can suddenly be the only acceptable option. One kind of craving is not normal: wanting to eat things that are not food, like soil or chalk. That is called pica, it is linked to low iron, and it goes to the midwife or doctor.
▸What to do, in order
- Go, and buy exactly what she asked for. If it is sold out, call her from the aisle before you pick a substitute.
- Keep a backup of the current craving in the house, so the next one is a walk to the kitchen, not a drive.
- If the craving is on the NHS list of foods to avoid in pregnancy, or is not food at all, flag it calmly and suggest she asks the midwife.
Are you really going to eat all of that?
▸Common questions
Why does my pregnant wife crave weird food?
Pregnancy hormones change how things taste and smell, so preferences can shift fast. Some women get strong cravings and some get none. Both are normal.
Is it normal to crave dirt or chalk when pregnant?
No. Wanting to eat things that are not food is called pica and is linked to low iron. She should tell her midwife or doctor.
What should I do when my pregnant partner has a craving at night?
Get the exact thing if you reasonably can, and keep some at home for next time. Just check it is not on the list of foods to avoid in pregnancy.
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